Hey lovely mumma,
Can we have a heart-to-heart for a moment? Because I see you. I see the way you're showing up for your little ones day in and day out, even when it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders. And I know something that you might not have said out loud yet.
Motherhood can feel so lonely sometimes.
I don’t think we talk about it enough. From the outside, motherhood can look like playdates, cuddles, and a house full of love. But inside, it can feel isolating — like you’re going through this beautiful, exhausting journey all on your own.
If you’re nodding your head right now, keep reading, because you’re not alone, and you don’t have to stay in this place.
Why Does Motherhood Feel So Lonely?
Let’s start here: you’re not imagining it. So many mums feel this way, even if they don’t talk about it.
Motherhood shifts your whole world. Your priorities change, your routine looks nothing like it used to, and suddenly, the social life you had pre-kids seems like a distant memory. Even when you're surrounded by little people who need you 24/7, there’s this deep craving for adult connection — someone who really gets it.
On top of that, society often paints motherhood as something we should just love every moment of. So when the loneliness creeps in, you might feel guilty, like you’re doing something wrong. But guess what? Feeling lonely doesn’t mean you’re a bad mum. It means you’re human.
Let’s Talk About the Hard Days
Have you ever had one of those days where you’ve barely spoken to another adult? When the only "conversation" you've had has been repeating, “Don’t climb that!” or “Please eat your veggies!”?
Those are the days that can feel the heaviest. You might scroll through social media and see other mums hanging out with friends or thriving in their careers, and you wonder, Why doesn’t my life look like that?
It’s okay to feel this way. Really, it is. Comparing is so natural, but remember — you’re only seeing someone else’s highlight reel. Their struggles might look different, but they have them too.
You’re Not Alone in This
Let me remind you of something: you’re not broken. What you’re feeling is part of the messy, beautiful, overwhelming reality of motherhood. And there’s a way through it.
Here are a few ideas to help ease the loneliness:
- Find Your Mumma Tribe
Whether it’s a local mum’s group, an online community, or a friend who’s in the same stage of life, having someone who gets it makes a world of difference. Start small — even just one meaningful connection can lift you up.
- Open Up to Someone You Trust
If you’re feeling lonely, talk about it. Share how you’re feeling with your partner, a close friend, or even your GP. There’s so much power in saying it out loud.
- Create Small Moments of Joy
Loneliness can feel overwhelming, but even tiny changes can help. Take a walk, play your favourite song, or call a friend. These moments won’t fix everything, but they’ll remind you of the beauty in your life.
- Join a Class or Workshop
Something like a baby music group, mum-and-bub yoga, or even an online workshop can help you connect with other mums and create new friendships.
A Little Love from Me to You
Mumma, I know it’s hard. I’ve been there too. And while I can’t take away the tough days, I hope you know that you’re seen, you’re loved, and you’re doing an amazing job.
This season won’t last forever. The days are long, but the years are short, and someday, you’ll look back and realise how far you’ve come.
Until then, keep going. Keep showing up. And remember, even on the lonely days, you’re never truly alone. There’s a whole village of mums out there who feel just like you do, and we’re cheering you on.
With so much love,
Lucy xxx
Mumma.Co